Day 5- Love is Thoughtful
Good Morning Girls! Well, yesterday went as I thought it might. Tom refused to answer the question "what 3 things cause you to be uncomfortable or irritated with me". I tried to be as casual as I could. I even wrote it down on a piece of paper and said he could simply write down his answer. I assured him it would not come back to haunt him. I assured him I was not going to respond to it. I assured him I was not going to return a list of things that irritate me. Still, he refused. I asked throughout the day. I kept it light. I told him it would mean a lot to me because I am really trying to work on some things and it would help if I was aware of things I do that bug him. Still, he would not play my reindeer game!
I could have used that as an excuse to quit. I mean HE WON'T EVEN GIVE ME ANYTHING TO WORK WITH! Instead, I am going to keep moving forward. I wonder is it the way I have responded in the past when he's tried to talk to me that has shut him down now? Maybe, but I tried to remember a time he was willing to have this kind of conversation and I can't. Throughout the years we would get HomeMaker assignments that involved input from our hubby's, and he always refused.
Instead of trying to figure out why, I am going to work on making him feel safe. Safe to open up to me. Safe to share without me lashing back with a laundry list of my disappointments. Safe to know that I love him and am proud of him.
I would love to hear what the response was for you guys....and how you handled it. Shoot me a quick message. Let me know if you want me to post it or not. We might as well have some fun with this!
Today's Assignment:
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
Question:
What did you learn about yourself or your spouse by doing this? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?
Psalm 139:17-18 How precious also are Your thoughts to me...How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand
Love you all-
Jen
ps if you are looking for a exercise/weight loss devotional, click here http://www.transformation.com/jeng/blog/
I could have used that as an excuse to quit. I mean HE WON'T EVEN GIVE ME ANYTHING TO WORK WITH! Instead, I am going to keep moving forward. I wonder is it the way I have responded in the past when he's tried to talk to me that has shut him down now? Maybe, but I tried to remember a time he was willing to have this kind of conversation and I can't. Throughout the years we would get HomeMaker assignments that involved input from our hubby's, and he always refused.
Instead of trying to figure out why, I am going to work on making him feel safe. Safe to open up to me. Safe to share without me lashing back with a laundry list of my disappointments. Safe to know that I love him and am proud of him.
I would love to hear what the response was for you guys....and how you handled it. Shoot me a quick message. Let me know if you want me to post it or not. We might as well have some fun with this!
Today's Assignment:
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
Question:
What did you learn about yourself or your spouse by doing this? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?
Psalm 139:17-18 How precious also are Your thoughts to me...How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand
Love you all-
Jen
ps if you are looking for a exercise/weight loss devotional, click here http://www.transformation.com/jeng/blog/
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