Good Morning Secret Agents of blessings!  Yesterday's assignment was to write the two lists.  One list was to contain positive things about your spouse, the other list was negative things.  You were then supposed to tuck them away for a later date.  At some point you were to tell you spouse one of the things on the positive list you admire about them.
I haven't done yesterday's assignment yet.  I really felt I had to take one more day working on the irritability and adding margin assignment.  You see, by the time those revelations came, they were still simply revelations, and I hadn't any time to put them to practice.  Well, yesterday I did and it was amazing.  Of course, the Lord helped me.  He first of all helped me by waking me up an hour earlier than I had set my alarm.  I fought it for about 6 minutes and then gave in and got up.  The end result was that I had 3 hours of quiet alone time in the morning before my kids and Tom even woke up.  By the time they were up I had written both blogs, worked out, had breakfast, prayer time, and a shower.  I had taken care of all of my needs.  I was then able to take care of my family's needs with a great attitude instead of grudgingly.  We even made it to school with out any "let's go, let's go, we are going to be late.." comments.  It was great for us all.
I guess this is the new plan, as the Lord woke me up at the same time again today!  God is good....all the time! 
I will do yesterdays and today's assignment today as they seem to piggy back off each other anyway.  I encourage you all to give your assignments 100%.  If that means you get behind a day or two, it's no big deal.  Just make sure you are working, not stalling, or giving up.  I have found this blogging to be a huge blessing for me. I suggest you journal, it is a great way to process your thoughts, and then get rid of the ones that need to go, and reflect on the ones that will lift your marriage up.
I can't tell you how amazed I am already at this process.  I am so excited to hear the testimonies as they unfold.  I am learning of new readers and each time I do I get all choked up at the Lord's goodness.  Just think, He is using the same marriage that 10 years ago I wanted to throw away, to help others improve theirs!  All of those times I cried in the closet praying to the Lord for help, asking Him why it was the way it was.  Asking Him why we were struggling, why we fought, why I was misunderstood, why did He put me with this man that was so hard to get close to?  Well girls, this morning He answered, and now I am sobbing.  The still small voice quietly whispered....
For such a time as this.....(I am crying so hard that my dog just came in and lay his head on my lap looking at me like "are you ok?)  Yes!  I am better than I have ever been!  Thank you Jesus! 

Todays assignment:
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy.  To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it.  Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he recently enjoyed.

Questions:
How hard was it to destroy the list?  What are some positive experiences that you can celebrate in the life of your mate?  How can you encourage them toward future successes?

Romans 12:15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep

I truly love and am thankful for each of you-
Jen