Good Morning Girls!  Yesterday I had two days of assignments to do.  I had to write my positive and negative attribute list for Tom, and then I had to burn the negative one.  I also had to compliment him on one of his positive attributes, and congratulate him on a recent success. 

I didn't really feel like doing the lists.  I think they should have you do it on day 1 when your heart is in the "starting" condition.  By yesterday, I already felt like, "what's the point of going here....I can't change him, I have already learned not to focus on these things, and quite frankly, I  don't want to sit and think about negative things right now."  But I did it.  And then I laughed at myself as I thought "maybe this is why they wait, so you can already see the change in the condition of your heart".  Who knows.

I genuinely complimented Tom on what I thought was really great news. His response was his typical non emotional "yeah" type response.  So, I added to it.  I tried to compliment him more, so he could see that I was truly trying to tell him how proud of him I was.  He answered, but I'm not sure what, and I left it at that.  I won't be moved as he has been fighting the flu this week.  I went to bed proud of the fact that I have not given up, and that I have a plan for today........

And then the alarm went off.  I woke up feeling like I had slept for 2-3 minutes.  My body is sore.  My neck is stiff.  I look like I aged 5 years over night.  "I will not, can not, get sick.  We all know if I get sick, there is no one to take care of me.  No one to bring me thera flu at 3am.  No one to tell me I can sleep for 14 hours.  No one to let me off the hook with the things I need to do".  Yep, that's my first thought.  After fighting those thoughts, I went down to the computer to write. 

Thomas, my 4 year old woke up early, and crabby.....not good.  I tried to set him up in my bed to watch a show so I could write and work out.  Tom opened one eye and said "Does the tv have to be on?"  "I guess not" I snipped.  "I just thought I would try to get my stuff done". Then I thought to myself "where is that stupid negative list......it's a good thing I burned it at my friends house or I would be digging up the ashes, reconstructing it, and showing him his "personality to do list".  This of course, made me laugh, got my head straight, and once again proved that the core of my anger and frustration is my self.  When I do not get to do things my way, I get irritated with anyone and anything in my way.  Look at what I learned today....and it's only 8am.  Can I go back to bed now?

Todays assignment:
Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today (hey, anything you come up with will be better than mine!).  Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm.  Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.

Questions:
When and where did you choose to do your special greeting?  How will you change your greeting from this point on?

1 Peter 5:14 Greet one another with a kiss of love

Love you all-
Jen