Good Morning Girls!  Yesterday we were told to give in to an area of disagreement between us and our spouses.  There wasn't anything I could do.  This is for a couple of reasons. First of all, in an effort to avoid conflict, I have quit fighting for my side of anything.  I am not trying to sound like a martyr here.  It is simply true.  I have given in on pretty much everything.  I have let him be the head of the household as he sees fit.  Except for the few things I would like to see changed, he does a good job.  I have not been willing to rock the boat.  Our first few years of marriage I fought for them all the time.  I never got anywhere, so one day I just quit fighting.  The one thing I fought really hard for was for my kids to go to Christian School.  I got him to agree that we will take it one year at a time.  We will be having the discussion in the next month or two as it will be time to re-enroll, but at this time, I am not willing to surrender this.  I am seeking the Lord on this one. 
The other reason goes back to my day one revelation.  In many areas we lead separate lives.  We don't disagree on friends because I hang out with mine during the week, and he doesn't hang out with any ever.  We don't disagree on meals because I cook separate meals.  We don't argue about where to vacation because we haven't gone in 2 years.  It goes back to the message of "I'll take care of me.  You take care of you.  We will both take care of the kids." 
I know todays message sounds sad, but I am not discouraged.  I feel the Lord working in my home.  There is an increased amount of joy and even small talk occurring.  The tension is lifting.  The eyes are softening.  The answers are less curt.  I believe we are experiencing the beginnings of breakthrough!  Even though it feels like we should be on day 38, we are only on 13.....just think of all of the blessings in store for us!

Assignment:
Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement.  If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by.  Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

Questions:
If your spouse participated with you, what was their response? What rules did you write for yourself?

Mark 3:25 If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand

love you all-
Jen