Good Morning Girls!  Yesterday we were told to guard our spouses secrets, pray for them, and make them feel safe.  It reminded me of when we were first married.  The first few times we got in a fight I would run to my mom crying and telling her everything.  Well, for those of you who have done this, you know that this is not a good way to build trust in your marriage.  I would return home feeling better only to find Tom more angry.  Angry because I did not stick it out and work it out.  I went outside our marriage for support.  I'm sure he imagined us bad mouthing and trashing on him.  This created animosity between Tom and my mom as well.  He was angry because she would take my side.  My mom would be angry because I would forgive and forget, but she would remember the hurtful things that were said to her daughter.  It got to a point where Tom said "I'm not saying anything so you can run and tell your family".  It was a hard pattern to break, but an essential one.  There are still times when I catch myself about to say something to my mom that really is none of her business.  Not purposely trying to dis on him, just mentioning things in conversation that I know he would not necessarily want me to share.  Tom is a very private person.  He keeps most things to himself.  He is also a great keeper of secrets.  The CIA really should have approached him to be one of their own! 
So Girls, the best way to have your husbands trust is to show him you are trustworthy.  When he shares his heart, treasure it to yourself, and no one else.  Not only the "dirt", but the exciting blessings in his heart as well.  If you know your husband is private like mine, honor them.  If you can be a refuge for your husband, you will be blessed!

Assignment:
Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you.  The dinner can be as nice as you prefer.  focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you've rarely talked about.  Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate.

Questions:
what did you learn about your spouse that you didn't know before?  How could you continue this process of discovery in other ways, at other times?  What were some of the moments that made this evening memorable?

Proverbs 24:3-4 By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches


Love you all-
Jen