I have amazing friends. They are talented, gorgeous, generous, encouraging, fun, godly women. They are all unique in their gifts and talents and my relationship with each of them is also unique and very special to me.
One of my best friends’ love language is gifts. Everyone needs to have a best friend that is a gifter! Gifter love language friends are awesome. My gifter friend sends me random gifts in the mail and her actual event gifts like Christmas and birthdays are sick (is that what the hipsters are saying for cool these days?).
Take last week for example, I get a text from my gifter friend that is a picture of her left leg. The text reads “My new favorite pants…I am shipping you some today.” Sure enough three days later in my mailbox are my own pair of amazing new pants. How cool is that?
Now you may think that I am just greedy and want stuff all the time. That is not the case at all. What makes my friends gifts so amazing is that they are always spot on. She knows me. She knows my size. She knows my tastes. She knows my colors. She even seems to know just when I need a little love gift.
The fact that I have friends that know me so intimately is what touches my heart. I am married to a wonderful man who is….how do I say it….NOT a gifter. He is generous. He is kind. He is thoughtful. He is all of these things and more, but he is not a gifter. We have been married for almost twenty years and I still get gift cards for all the holidays. I appreciate these gift cards. I would much rather have them than a gift that is nowhere near my size, color, taste, or plugs into the wall and sucks up dirt off the carpet, or cooks a warm meal slowly over many hours (previous gifts prior to the gift card days).
It used to bother me when we were first married and I would get all of these “bad” gifts from him. What bothered me is that it made me feel as if he didn’t love me or know me at all. “If he really loved me he would know exactly what I wanted.” Thank God for books like the Five Love Languages that taught me that my husband does in fact love me, he just doesn’t show it through gifts. Thank God also that He gave me a best friend that is a gifter to fill that need for me (my friend also has an amazing hubby that is not a gifter so God gave us each other 🙂
God is the ultimate Gifter. It says in Romans 8:32 He who did not spare [even] His own Son, but gave Him up for us all, how will He not also, along with Him, graciously give us all things?
I want you to pay close attention to the word graciously. Websters defines graciously as: in a courteous, kind, indulgent and pleasant manner. The antonyms for graciously are: discourteously, inconsiderately, thoughtlessly.
In other words not only has God given us the ultimate gift of His son Jesus, He continues to give us gifts. They are not crummy, haphazard, random gifts. They are indulgent, kind, thoughtful, considerate gifts. Just as my friend truly knows me to the point where she can pick out a gift for me two thousand miles away, God also intimately knows us. He knows us better than we know ourselves. He knows exactly what gifts we need and when. If it feels as though He is withholding a gift from us it is only because He knows it will not be a blessing in the end. It will somehow take us away from Him or destroy us. He is the Giver of everything good in our lives!
Another reason my friend loves to bless me with amazing gifts is the fact that she knows how much I love and appreciate them. She knows I get excited when she teases me with a “I sent you something in the mail” text. She knows I do not take it for granted. She also knows I will never, ever, refuse a gift from her. I receive all gifts freely.
God loves a cheerful giver. He also loves a cheerful receiver. He loves it when we freely receive the gifts He longs to pour out on us. He loves it when we anticipate his goodness, favor, and blessing to fall on us. He loves it when we open our arms to praise Him and also to receive His goodness. It is so much easier, and much more fun to give to an excited receiver!
Please don’t buy the lie that you do not deserve good gifts. None of us do! We don’t deserve any of the good gifts God has for us. It is not about earning or deserving them. It is about understanding the Father’s heart towards us. As it says in todays verse, He has already given us His only beloved Son- why would He not also give us all things? I know Jesus is more than enough- that’s the amazing thing about it. In the Father’s eyes Jesus was just the beginning of an eternity of personal, thoughtful gifts. Oh what a Savior! Oh what a Father!
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for loving me. Thank you for pouring out your favor, grace, and mercy on my life. Help me to freely receive all of the good things you have planned for me. Thank you that it is not about how good I am or how much I do. Thank you that I don’t get what I deserve and I do get what I do not deserve. Thank you for knowing me intimately and personally. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Love, Grace, and Gracious Gifts for Us All,