“I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man.” Those are the lyrics in a perfume commercial from 1980, it was sung by a beautiful, sexy woman with pouty lips. The tag line was Enjoli- the 8-hour perfume for the 24- hour woman.
I clearly remember walking around my parents’ house singing and mimicking this woman. I would have been eight at the time. That was just the start of a lifetime of commercials, ads, and worldly influences telling me I not only have to be a 24-hour woman, I also need to be a perfect and complete 24-hour woman.
It’s no surprise I have fallen into the trap of thinking I need to be perfect in every way. I often feel as though I should have a house like Martha Stewart, a heart like Mother Theresa, and a body like Jillian Michaels. Let’s just say I am 0 for 3 and I don’t expect any changes in my stats anytime soon.
I know I am not alone in this. I know it is a common trap for most women. I have seen in myself and in others, the countless hours spent, wasted really, on things that don’t truly matter in an attempt to achieve some level of perfection, or at minimum a level of “good enough”.
But who decides what “good enough” is or looks like? And who are we trying to be “good enough” for? And how will life be different when we finally become “good enough”?
When I sat down and answered those questions for myself, I realized my motives were all wrong and my pursuits were all in vain. I had bought into the lie. I had bought into the need to become the 24-hour perfect and complete woman. I had forgotten that in Christ I have already been perfected forever!
When we give our lives to Jesus, he marks us approved, perfected, pure, and blameless. We no longer need to strive for the approval of those around us. We no longer need to try to fit the ideals the world puts on us. We no longer need to wait until we are good enough to be happy. When we belong to Jesus we are all we ever need to be.
It’s not always easy to stay in that feel good Truth. I still get caught in the good enough trap from time to time. I find myself needing to lose that last ten pounds, or researching the latest cellulite cream, or buying a new outfit that I really don’t need because I need a quick feel good fix. The good news is that now I realize when I am getting sucked in and I can go back to the Truth that says not only am I good enough, I am better than that! I am perfect and complete right here, right now, and so are you.
I encourage you all to take a few minutes to honestly answer the good enough questions. Are you pursuing the wrong things for the wrong reasons in order to impress the wrong people? Are you wasting precious time, energy, and money on things that don’t really matter? Whatever your answers are, I pray you find hope and peace as you meditate on the Truth of today’s verse. I pray you let it sink down deep into your heart and that you go back to it whenever you feel yourself falling into the 24-woman trap.
For by one offering He has perfected forever and completely cleansed those who are being sanctified [bringing each believer to spiritual completion and maturity]- Hebrews 10:14 AMP
Grace, peace, and a perfected by Jesus day to you all,